The iconic Barbie doll will turn 54 on March 9th. Before Disney became the merchandising machine that it is today, there was Barbie. And she was perfect. She had an amazing body, sun-kissed blonde hair, a dream house, a pink Corvette, an amazing career, and an outfit for every occasion. And if that wasn’t enough, she had Ken, the perfect man to share it with. Barbie had it all. Maybe we could too. We get older and put our Barbie’s away but the fantasy continues. We seek perfection. In magazines. On television. In ourselves. We spend years chasing the dream of the perfect life. We spend so much time chasing that dream, we forget to create our own. An attainable dream that is built on reality. No matter what we have, we want more. We want to be famous, prettier, thinner, richer, more successful. A bigger house, a fancier car, designer clothes—and a rich, handsome husband to foot the bill.
The journey to perfection is a painful one. We eat too much. We starve ourselves. We compromise our bodies and our principles. We self-mutilate and self-medicate. We over extend ourselves and our credit. We self-destruct. Trying to be what we are not.
We forget to look at our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, teachers, and so many other women in our community that represent what is real in this life. Women who show us everyday what it takes to work hard, raise a family and make a life in this world. Resilient women who deal with life’s triumphs, heartbreaks, and disappointments. Women who are stronger and wiser than we ever imagined.
WE are the women who should be celebrated. Our lives are not always pretty, but we are REAL. The red carpet we walk is the one that we spilled red wine on. The gown that we wear is probably flannel. We choose men based on how they complement us, not because they complete us.
The truth is that perfection is unattainable. So, put down the magazine, turn off the television, and live in your own reality. Not the one that you allowed society to create for you. The one that appreciates you for who you are and accepts you as you are. A reality show with you as the leading lady.