I was listening to the radio earlier this week when the host referenced a listener that revealed the key to a happy marriage:
Never let him leave the house horny or hungry.
Isn’t this a little bit one-sided? The statement refers to him. And what about me? I have with him for almost 17 years and married for almost 12. I can assure you that sex and food is not what is keeping my marriage happy. At least not completely…
Of course, I asked my husband if he agreed. And he hit me with the usual “It’s probably true for most men, but not me. You know I don’t think like that.” I love how he suddenly becomes so enlightened whenever I ask him these types of questions. Smart man.
Before I could answer the question of what I thought the key to a happy marriage is, I had to define “happy.” Needless to say, I gave up on that after about five minutes. That’s because after I thought about it, I realized that marriages aren’t always meant to be happy. There is a reason wedding vows include the statement for better or for worse.
There are times in a marriage that are far from happy. Times when you will be tested in ways that you cannot imagine. Times when you want to drive around the block a few times before you go in the house. Times when all those annoying habits (that you used to think were cute) make you want to scream until you lose your voice.
But there are also times when you pass that test and realize how strong you are together. Times when you are amazed that you can still laugh so hard together after so many years. Times when you know that you couldn’t have picked a more perfect person to embark on the journey of parenthood with. Times when you realize that home is the only place you want to be.
That said, I guess the key to a happy marriage (or mine, at least) is realizing that your marriage will not always be happy. But that you have more than enough love to get through whatever comes your way.
Oh, and I guess it doesn’t hurt to keep something hot cookin’ in the kitchen…and a few other rooms in the house… 🙂
What do you think the key to a happy marriage is?
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